Thursday, 30 October 2014

Happy Halloween from Töck and Phanty!

To celebrate, here are some photos of Töck in her Vampire Requiem co-ord :3

Notice anything ironic in this picture?
Sneaking into a construction-site...
Töck's phone-case is Vampire Requiem too ^.^ 
I wore my coord to a small Halloween Meet at Cheeky Chocolate in Strathfield. The gorgeous decor reminded me of the house in  What We Do In The Shadows and the hot-chocolate was just heavenly. ^.^ Definitley go there if you get the chance! I know I'll be back soon... <3 (That's our friend Rachel in the pic above looking like a cool gothic governess) ^.^
My batty-barrette, which you can't really see clearly in the photos. It was made by the incredible Veronika at CuteMoonBunny on commission (I asked her for a solid-black bat with a red bow). Spasiba! ^.^ <3

Happy Halloween!


Töck's Coord
Skirt: AatP
Blouse: AatP
Headbow: AatP
Stockings: Offbrand
Shoes: Montreal 
Bag: AatP
Barrette: CuteMoonBunny
Earrings: Etsy

Wednesday, 29 October 2014

My Letter to Meta

*UPDATE!!! 9:00PM 30/10/14* 
We have just received the following message from Metamorphose:

Hello, thank you for your inquiry.
We don't mean to offend Brolita at all.
We apologize if there are any infelicitous expressions.

* Metamorphose Online is closed every Saturday and Sunday.
Metamorphose English Online
Aya Nakagawa/Ayano Hasui


Dear Metamorphose Temps de Fille

My name is Töck, and I am a member of the Sydney Lolita Community. The Metamorphose brand is very popular with Australian lolitas, and your 'Secret Library' coord is an item that has long been on my wish list. 
Today I saw the advertisement for your 'Metamorphose 2014 Autumn and Winter Coordinate Contest' for the very first time. Thinking what a wonderful idea it was, I eagerly read through the rules only to have my heart suddenly turn cold as soon as I saw the last rule on the Applicant Eligibility list.
I find this absolutely despicable. Not only did you bar any male from being counted into the competition, you also added insult to injury by insisting that Metamorphose is only for women. 
I know many men who wear and love Metamorphose (both your ouji AND feminine items), my own boyfriend included.    
As the girlfriend of a wonderful man who loves lolita as much as I do, I know all too well the kind of prejudice and discrimination that male lolitas (or 'brolitas') get from people both inside and outside the lolita community. Wearing lolita is already provocative enough for a woman to wear out on the streets, but it can be viewed as downright obscene for men to wear as cross-dressing is still largely a taboo in most cultures, particularly for men. And now, many brolitas will be forced to include your name, Metamorphose, to their already too-long Enemies Lists of people who don't like them wearing lolita (which tragically often include family-members and friends) 

Congratulations, Metamorphose. You are now no better than those bigoted high schools all over the world who gain international criticism for not allowing their students to wear whatever they wish just because they happen to belong to a certain biological sex.  

I myself have always seen lolita as a fashion that belongs to either gender, purely because by mainstream standards, Victorian and Rococo-style women's fashion now seen as unacceptable for modern women to wear on an everyday basis. In music, if no-one claims ownership of a song (or if its copyright goes out of date), it becomes 'public domain' and thus free for anyone to use. If something doesn't belong to anyone, then naturally, it belongs to everyone. 

You have the right to your own opinion. If there are Metamorphose staff-members who personally find men wearing lolita repulsive, then that is OK (just don't expect everyone to agree with you). And if you do not wish to have males represent your company, then that is your right as well. When you are conducting business, you should be free to make whatever decisions you wish about choosing your models, especially if you're the ones paying them  However, surely the whole meaning of holding a competition is to just have a bit of fun? If you agree, then I can only say that having a rule such as this is quite the killjoy! 
The very nature of this competition seems to be all about letting both professional and unprofessional lolitas model their coords for fun and for free with the hopes of perhaps earning a prize in the process. Now tell me, what right do you have to tell someone that they can't participate in a fun little activity such as this? They are not working professionally for you, they are not on your payroll, they are all simply Metamorphose customers who want to try their best to gain your favour. You may argue that competition representatives are still representing your company, and in some ways that is true. However, the whole point of company representation is to gain good publicity, and I wonder how your publicity (and your sales) will be affected once your male AND female customers receive your sexist message loud and clear and respond by vowing to never buy or wear Metamorphose ever again, like myself and my boyfriend have already done.

I cannot imagine how including men will bring Metamorphose negative attention, but I certainly believe that discrimination will. Both men AND women are appalled by what you have done and the blatant sexism you have expressed.    
The word 'Brolita' is a portmanteau of 'lolita' and the english word 'brother,' because they are our brothers in lolita. Likewise, we are their lolita sisters, and it is our duty to treat each-other as such. So this is why I am urging you to be true sisters to your brothers and change the rules of your competition, as well as publicly apologise to all of your lolita brothers and male customers (past, present and future) for offending them. 

Yours sadly but sincerely, 

Charlotte E. Markowski (AKA 'Töck')

NOTE: Just a few hours after I emailled this letter to Metamorphose, the wording on the contest page changed (see below). It now simply says, 'The object should be a woman this time' and doesn't mention anything about Meta being a women-only brand.  
Although the contest is still women-only, Metamorphose is not using this space to slander its male customers any more, and we sincerely hope that it will never happen again in future. So we achieved a partial-victory, I guess.
Whether it's in the army, nursing or lolita, there is no room for inequality!



Monday, 27 October 2014

The Springthaw High Tea at Boronia House



The Boronia House Tearoom is a heritage-listed Victorian building in Mosman. Built in 1885, you will probably never find a more suitable place to hold a lolita meet-up in the entire country. So ever since August, Töck and Phanty had been busily preparing to host the venue's very first Lolita High Tea!

Boronia House has been a private residence, a council library, an office, a restaurant, a function venue and a heritage-listed building. But today, we were going to be turning it into a creamy-dreamy wonderland of milky unicorns and melty macarons... <3

Planning the Meet


They decided that the tea would be held in October, and that it would be a celebration of Spring with a 'Spring and Tea' theme. While economics-major Phanty got to work handling the deposits and negotiations with the venue, Töck (ever the obsessive present-buyer!) gleefully began to organise the raffle-prizes and giftbags. The starring prize in the raffle was to be a gorgeous like-new red BTSSB 'Alice's Portrait' Ribbon JSK and Headbow set she found on Lace Market for an absolute steal. ^.^


Other great prizes that were generously donated to the raffle by the Sydney Comm included a beige MCS Summer Dream Jumper Skirt by the fantastisch girls at Magic Cats Street (we love you all!!!), two chokers and a R.A.D gift-voucher from Kate at Rouge Aerie Designs, this gorgeous accessory set handmade by the talented Cming (that's her in the top-photo up there!), a Bodyline Bustled Floral Stripe skirt by Kathleen, some kawaii cakes of soap from Japan by Oanh, and a very special prize-pack put together by the amazing lolita artist Nabari Gratefullove which included a pack of postcards and an art commission-voucher!



Cming's handiwork! <3

Nabari with the prize-pack she donated ^.^

                                          
Next was for Töck to make up the giftbags that were to be handed out at the end of the Tea. She decided that a good idea would be to include a small, kawaii accessory that any lolita would cherish. So, she sent out a message to three favourite kawaii jewellery-makers, asking them if they would be willing to cheaply make and/or send them 35 small accessories to put inside 35 lolita giftbags. Of the three artists, only one replied, and that was the incredibly-talented Lina at Paradise Rose. Lina agreed to send Töck and Phanty 35 of her gorgeous cupcake rings at a discount (she even threw in a few cabochon rings and bracelets for the High Tea organisers to have for free!) And even later when the number of High Tea guest deposits grew and it became clear that Töck and Phanty were going to need a lot more than 35 giftbags, Lina was more than happy to quickly send a couple more rings their way. ^.^     
As well as the cupcake rings, each giftbag also contained two chocolate-chip biscuits baked by Töck's mum (who loves any excuse at all to bake!) and a handwritten thank-you note. <3 

One of the rings we bought from Paradise Rose! *Squeeeeeee!*

Phanty got very nervous as the day of the Tea drew nearer. This was their very first time organising a large-scale meet for the Sydney Community, and anything could go wrong. The tea was originally planned as a small meet-up for newer Lolitas, but became something much, much bigger as time went on. Eventually, they would have 40 lolitas (both new and veteran) sign up to be a part of the tea!
Töck and Phanty soon enlisted the help of Milkyfawn and Kate to be organisers as well. Their goal for the tea would be to thaw out the cold clutches of winter and to welcome the warm spring with a nice tea shared with all their frilly friends. ^.^ <3

The Day of the Tea

The day of the Springthaw High Tea was a hot and sunny one. Phanty arrived wearing his pink Milk-chan Fantasy Wonderland co-ord which he had worn to the previous Lolita meet-up (but had bought especially for the tea!) and Töck would wear her newly acquired black AatP Alice's Tear Bottle co-ord! 

Yay for Suspender Skirts!
Finally worked out how to wear a beret properly... :-p

Not to be outdone by the hosts, the Sydney Lolita community came out in full force, some adhering strongly to the "Spring and Tea" theme with flowers in their hair and others coming in their usual gorgeous flair. Lolitas both old and new came out from places as far as Dubbo and as close as "across the road from the tea house" to attend. :O





Everyone gathered in the houses' largest space, the 1885 Room, for tea across three separate tables. Some of the food provided by the chefs included scones, macarons, mousses, sandwiches, cakes and other precious little finger foods!  


As well as food, Lolitas were able to meet, talk and have photos taken in Boronia's beautifully kept gardens. It was a delight for them both to see so many Lolitas in one room enjoy themselves! (despite how hot it was!)







What you would have seen if you peeked through the window that day... <3

The tea was wonderful, the food was delicious, and the Lolitas were all looking their best. That, in our book, could be considered a success already. But once our meals were done, it would be time for the raffle.
The surprise prize announcement of Magic Cats Street's Summer Dream dress sent gasps across the room, and the raffle became an unexpected success. Phanty was hoping to sell about 80 tickets, and instead sold about 190! We had suddenly been able to pay for the tea without losing money, and give away some wonderful prizes to very deserving winners (although for some reason, a majority of the winners were from the middle table :O).

As the raffle was complete, and the day was beginning to wind down, Töck and Phanty were approached with a surprise - the Lolitas from the community had banded together to create a tribute for Töck and Phanty for organising the tea. A beautiful card with a portrait of both of the hosts by Elyse Hendry, and inside, many warm messages of thanks to the hosts and some money to help cover the costs of the venue and the gift bags. The card came to Phanty as such a shock that he would need to walk out and recover (aaaaaawww!!!)


Finally, it was time for the obligatory group photos and outfit shots in the garden, as well as some time to commune with other Lolitas and say our farewells! The day ended without a hitch, and with a bit of hope for another high tea next year at Boronia House :3




Thanks to all our guests and everyone who helped make this meet possible!
Milkyfawn for being our mentor, Kate for helping us organise and providing prizes, Alana Cming and Nabari for helping with the raffle and noticing our financial difficulties, Elyse for drawing the amazing card and Oanh for helping us with the prizes!

Us pictured immediately after the Tea looking haggard-but-happy with our hair messed-up and head accessories askew. :-p

Photo credits: Alana Cming [2, 6, 23 - facebook], Kate Ruggeri [8, 27 - facebook], Gabriela Bate [28 - facebook], Alanah May [1,12 - facebook]

SPECIAL THANKS TO THESE PEOPLE FOR HELPING US MAKE THIS TEA AMAZING:

Tuesday, 7 October 2014

Our September Haul ^.^

Töck and Phanty seriously bought a lot of sh*t last month. And in this joint haul-post, they're going to be sharing their awesome purchases with you. So let's get started! ^.^

Skirts
Töck: AatP Vampire Requiem Corset Skirt in Red

Tops
Töck: AatP Rose Crown Blouse in Black
Töck: AatP Cutsew (Name Unknown)
Phanty: BTSSB Milk Chan's Fantasy Wonderland OTKS in Pink

Headpieces
Töck: AatP Alice's Tear Bottle Ribbon Cloche Headbow in Black, AatP Wooden Sole Shoes Embroidered Headbow in Black, Offbrand Black Beret
Phanty: BTSSB Princess Drop Beret in Pink

Shoes
Töck: Montreal Shoes in Matte Black

Bags
Töck: AatP Ribbon Bag
Phanty: BTSSB Kuma Kumya Pochette

Accessories
Phanty: Angelic Pretty Fantasy Theatre Hat Ring in Black